Parents Are Here To Help Our Children

We parents have a very important task, the task of helping our children. It’s something we probably don’t think about when we have them. We do not know how much work lies ahead.

It is not only taking care of them, feeding them, making them happy … Parents have to be there, support them, make them little people who know how to deal with a world as hard as the one we are in now. A world that will put them in trouble, a world that will throw them down as they struggle to get up.

But what are we doing wrong with them? Because, even if it costs you to admit it, when it comes to educating we do countless things that are not right, but we believe that they are. Let’s discover them!

Parents we have to be there

Our main task as parents is to be there for our children, unconditionally, with a love that surpasses absolutely everything.

What’s more, put yourself in your child’s place, because at some point you were taking his place. How was your childhood? Did you have good parents? Was there something you lacked? Do not make the same mistakes that caused you some kind of lack. It is time for you to know what you are there for as a parent:

• Parents are here to give our children permission to live: because many children are born in families whose parents are deceived or violence reigns. Your child must know that he has the right to have, to live, to power.

• Parents are here to transmit ideals to our children: we must inspire them so that when they become young they know what to expect, where to go, what they are. Encourage this with phrases like “I know you are going to achieve great things”, “I expect great things from you.”
• Parents are here to give life to our children : because sometimes we pressure them with a multitude of extracurricular activities and they must enjoy, they must live!
• Parents are here to provide unconditional love to our children : a love that cannot be compared to any other, a love that overcomes any physical barrier, any mental barrier. Whatever they do, your love for them shouldn’t change.

Now that you know what you are as a parent for, it is time for you to put into practice everything you have learned, but there is something even more important that you should know, something in which we constantly fail …

It is very difficult to see it as parents, so we are going to put ourselves in the perspective of when we were children. Don’t you remember how many punishments you received? Have you ever heard “you behave like a boy” (if you were a girl)?

During our childhood, we have suffered punishments and continuous fights. On many occasions, these were given by our childish behavior. But… weren’t we children ? When could we behave like such? When were we older?

They always teach us to be older from childhood, they do not let us enjoy being children! You always have to behave well, learn to be older. But … is this the way?

We believe that with these indications we are doing a good, when it really is a bad. Instead of motivating, we demotivate, we make our children feel bad. Bad with themselves and with us for not knowing how to behave as they should.

They are children, children! They are learning, indeed, we continue to learn whether we are 20, 30, 40 years old, and so on. What can we expect from them?

Give them permission to live, to behave like children, give them permission to make mistakes because you too are wrong and you make mistakes. But above all, stop focusing on everything they do wrong and start to influence what they do well.

For example, instead of pointing out that how badly their paintings have picked up or that they have painted the table, simply teach them that next time they should use a table cover or anything else that will help them protect the furniture.

They don’t know what could happen and even if you tell them they will probably forget! But, do not affect the negative, redirect it towards a positive teaching.

What mistakes have you made with your children? The most important thing and what you should stay with is that you should always be there for him, in addition to that you should promote the positive and stop repeating the negative. Ready to be good parents?

Images courtesy of Pascal Campion and Claudia Tremblay