Live The Mourning For Your Divorce

Divorce is an act that combines too many emotions at the same time

Depending on your personality and emotional intelligence, you may find yourself jumping from one emotion to another or taking things relatively easy.

Denial

Being sad when divorce comes is natural

During the denial stage you will want to believe that divorce is avoidable

Sadness is not only caused by the time invested. Despite the fact that in many cases the divorce is by mutual agreement, there is great affection left and the distance can cause pain. It can also be caused by deception, or by seeing frustrated prospects.

Anger

You will feel angry when you feel that you lose control and begin to analyze all your mistakes and those of your ex-partner

Some people make the mistake of seeking revenge in some way

Negotiation

This step will lead you to believe that you can restore the relationship.

You will make promises that you may not want or cannot keep, this is a bad time to commit yourself in any way.

Sadness

you will have found many reasons to cry

The last thing you should do is fall into self-pity and stay locked up at home.

Acceptance

now you will be more calm and optimistic about the future and what awaits you.

in this moment you will remember how to rejoice again with the small details of daily life.

Overcoming

At this point you will have learned to live the new life after your divorce.

You will have turned the page and that relationship is definitely in the past. 

The phases of grief that you must live

Experiencing each of these emotional states is necessary to fully heal.

Indicators of a grief experience

According to different authors, there are a series of physical, emotional, cognitive and behavioral indicators that can indicate that we are living an experience of grief. Sánchez and Martínez (2014) collect in their article these indicators proposed by different researchers:

• Physical: Panic attacks, fatigue, apathy, dry mouth, weakness, crying, insomnia …
• Emotional: Guilt, anxiety, helplessness, anger, sadness, pain, depression, anger, anguish …
• Cognitive: Self-reproach, insecurity, indifference to life, confusion, disappointment …
• Behavioral: Crying, sleep disturbances, looking for an ex-partner, social isolation, demotivation …