Each Person Fights His Own Internal Battle

The truth is that each person fights their own internal battle (some until World War III). A battle of which many times we do not know the most important details because they are only registered in the mind of the person who fights it. On the other hand, a person with good or bad intention is rarely  aware of how harmful it can be to others and to himself.

This unconsciousness becomes frequent for a reason beyond the intention: our mind is like a locomotive that creates thoughts without pause, in a frenzied and vertiginous way.  Go around everything, make hypotheses about what is happening around us, make assumptions, create new ideas and concepts, think and think again, anticipate the worst and make judgments about others … And also about ourselves. Of course.

That incessant hammering tortures us, damages us and leaves us with “mental garbage” as a memory. Scientists claim that we have more than 60,000 thoughts a day.  It is estimated that many of these thoughts (approximately 80%) in most people are negative, toxic, dysfunctional …

We act automatically most of the time. Thus, we are extremely influenced by our beliefs; convictions that were formed in our early childhood and take root through our experiences. Some of these beliefs are in our subconscious, and from those beliefs our most immediate thoughts and judgments are born.

The mind and its deceptions

If some of your beliefs are wrong or unhealthy, many of your thoughts and judgments will be too. We are constantly judging, we judge ourselves and others. But the truth is that the most frequent consequence is suffering. Our mind makes judgments to protect us, for our own survival, but this does not mean that these judgments ultimately serve the purpose for which they were “summoned.”

We think that the other has the same point of view as us and that is partly why we suffer so much. But no, each one perceives life with different glasses and for what it means to me one thing, for you it probably means another. And in this lie of believing that everyone should have our point of view (ours of course), we dare to judge the other. Even ourselves, forgetting the fallacy of judging the past from the future, knowing the consequences of an action that was not safe then, only probable. Like some others.

In both cases, it is not the others who make you suffer. In the first, it is your own expectations that you have about these people that make you suffer. We expect others to be as we wish and we become unable to accept them as they really are. That is the beginning and the end of the battle at the same time

Acceptance and love heal everything

When you accept your essence (including all your shadows), you begin to see the shadows of others tenderly. When we believe that someone does not attack, deep down, that someone may be waging their own internal battle. They do it from unconsciousness, from their emotional wounds and their survival strategies learned in childhood, when they felt deeply wounded in their search for love and acceptance. Sometimes, many times, all of this leads them to act like this.

Therefore, when you think someone is attacking you, remember that it is probably not a conscious attack, but a shadow that you imagine or that the other projects without intention, at least without that intention.

We have to accept when other people do not behave as we would like, when they take care of us in the way we want but do it differently. We are here before to want than to judge, to feel than to reason. So if someone draws a circle to exclude you, draw your larger one to include them.

Remember that love increases as judgment becomes flexible, compassionate, and godly. Love gives us happiness, strict judgment brings us suffering. Do not understand love as something that can be taken away as reinforcement or punishment: unconditional love is above that.

Victim or responsible for the battle?

If we stop judging and start looking with the heart, our suffering will begin to disappear. Either you choose to be a victim or you choose to be responsible. The victim justifies, lies, blames, complains and surrenders. The person in charge assumes that what he has in his life is not due to external circumstances, but that he has created it himself and he himself is the only one who can change his reality.

Life will provide you with experiences to open your eyes, but it is your decision to be a victim or responsible. And he who does not learn from his own history, life condemns him to repeat his mistakes. They will be different experiences in their forms, but the same in their background.