Are You Happy With The Life You Lead?

Full happiness is not a state, but rather a path and it is that path that we want to review today. Being happy with the life one leads implies moments of joy, of course, but it has more to do with what is dynamic than with what is static, because movement is where we come together.

Waking up every morning with plans and improvisations and going to sleep with the satisfaction of another day well spent, instead of with that common one of closing one more day. That kind of happiness that cooks inside one a calm euphoria, of the internal knowledge that things are going, at a greater or lesser pace, but they work.

We are not always aware of our internal state. Knowing if you are happy with the life you lead involves asking yourself several questions and answering them honestly. It’s like getting a car overhauled. From time to time it is convenient to test our emotional moment to reinforce ourselves for it  and to regulate the sails of our ship of life if in some aspect we are a little adrift.

How many times do you see yourself complaining about your life?

This is one of the most important questions that we can ask ourselves with some frequency. It is not just about avoiding the complaint, it is about finding out the reason for a complaint that is often repeated. If this situation repeats itself, it is easy that you have fallen into a loop.

Complaints are rooted in frustration, discomfort, or perceived harm. We use the complaint as a way to release tension, but we must know that far from relieving said tension, the complaint is forcing us to focus on the negative aspect of the event in question.

The complaint loop has two outputs: I either accept it or do something to get out of the situation. Sometimes even the second exit is not available. If the only option is to accept it, analyze the matter, take a lesson and focus on something else as soon as possible.

Do you have the right people around you?

This is a difficult question, because not all the people around us have been chosen by us. Obviously, in work or family environments we will not always find or there will be those people who can and can contribute.

Learning to create emotional filters with toxic people is an important step. Learning to see others as they affect us emotionally is a very healthy exercise that helps us relate to them without negatively affecting us. Just accept that they are not the right people for you.

Attracting the right people into your life or caring for the ones already there is just as important. The people who make us feel good are those with whom we can be ourselves without requiring any type of mask. They are the people who support you in what you do or decide and with whom you love spending time.

What are the pleasures in your current life that you really enjoy?

Sometimes we get carried away by the memory of happy moments in the past. Or we easily move to the imaginary world of the future. But there are many things that our present offers us to fully enjoy the small pleasures that are what create memories for the future.

Immerse yourself in reading a good book, spend an entire afternoon cooking, go out for a long walk and absorb all the details, or sit back and watch that movie we have in mind. For everyone the pleasant moments are different and that is why it is important to recognize your own. Counting those moments will help you identify how happy you are with the life you lead.

Doing any of the activities that make us feel good, and avoiding getting caught up in problems or obstacles that we have in other facets of life, is a good cardinal point to guide ourselves.

The inner smile has little to do with optimism. People who smile for no reason do so because they carry happiness within. A joy that derives from inner peace. They know that they are not perfect, that they give the best of themselves, they are not afraid of loneliness, they do not compare themselves with others and above all they are themselves.