Are You Addicted To Chaos?
Chaos addicts are more common than you might imagine. They are always at least fifteen minutes late and that is why they are late everywhere, running and panting. They apologize and blame it on traffic.
They are also seen desperate at the end of the month, when the bills arrive and for the umpteenth time they discover that they bought more than they could afford and that now they have a serious problem. Everything is lost, they never find anything, they always mistake a piece of information, a signature or whatever. They are glued to error.
They are also bullies. They are the type of people who fight over everything. They blame the grocer because the cookies went up in price. They reprimand the taxi driver for driving too slowly on purpose, even though the congestion prevents him from moving a single street. They are in a fight with something or someone all the time.
Chaos addicts are also terribly messy. His closet is a space of terror where next to a sweater there can be an orange and under a pile of badly folded clothes, there can be the keys to the door, which he lost two months ago. If someone questions that disorder, they complain and deny it. They say that they do not have time, that they are full of problems, that the order is only for the “unemployed”. What is really happening to them?
Chaos addiction and its physical origin
All addiction is related to some degree of dependence on a substance. This is the case of addiction to chaos, this substance is inside the body itself and is called “adrenaline”. In a strict sense, chaos junkies are actually adrenaline junkies. That is why they seek and generate situations that lead them to generate this substance.
Chaos is defined as disorganization, lack of coherence, disorder or dispersion. Every time a human being is faced with situations of this type, he develops defensive responses, of anguish or preparation for action or attack. At the same time, these reactions are accompanied by a series of chemical changes in the body. The most important of these is the production of adrenaline and cortisol, the stress hormones.
Many people want to get rid of stress, but the chaos addict, on the contrary, feels a fatal attraction to everything that distresses him. There is a joy in experiencing that tension and that permanent state of defense.
The problem is that when the threatening situation is resolved, or passes, in the body there is a decrease or a cut in the production of these substances. So what follows is a state of depression, which the chaos addict can only overcome if he gets into more trouble, or creates new conflicts, or makes new mistakes.
Overcome addiction to chaos
In general, every addiction fulfills the function of covering up another much deeper conflict, which has not been resolved, but which continues to weigh on life insistently. This compulsive tendency to create new problems is nothing more than a strategy so that attention is always occupied with external affairs, with those problems that reproduce like viruses and that always demand an urgent solution.
Anxiety is an imprecise form of fear and it is so because it fails to locate an object towards which to go. In other words, one feels fear, an impression of threat, fear of what may happen, but it is not possible to define what that danger consists of, or where it is, or even if it really exists. It is only experienced as invasive fear.
Generating chaotic situations is a way of fulfilling, unconsciously, with two objectives: defining an object towards which the anguish can be directed and letting that anguish emerge with all its force, to live it and, apparently, channel it towards specific defense actions. But since the underlying problem is still latent, it is necessary to restart the cycle over and over again. It ends up becoming a lifestyle.
It is not easy to overcome any addiction, including this one. The most important thing is to recognize what that subterranean conflict is that drives you to constantly get into trouble. But to get there, a long path of exploration must be traveled, which can be traveled through ways such as meditation or therapy.
In principle, what is recommended is to exercise the ability to be alone, still and in silence so that the body stops resisting the lack of tension and therefore the restlessness disappears. In addition, in this way we will facilitate that the conscience is opening and those old sufferings that have not yet healed emerge.
